Ep 127 - ADHD and the Someday Trap: Stop Waiting for the Perfect Time

We all have a "someday" list — the things we keep telling ourselves we'll get to once life calms down, once we're more confident, once we finally get our act together. But what if that perfect time never actually comes?

In this episode, Coach Mande John explores the Someday Trap and why it's so convincing for ADHD brains. Someday feels safe. It doesn't ask anything of us today. But the longer we wait, the more life keeps moving without our participation — and waiting doesn't just delay the outcome, it delays everything we would have learned by trying.

Mande walks through why ADHD adults are especially prone to this pattern (hint: it's not a discipline problem), the real costs of waiting, and how to tell the difference between a wise, intentional pause and an indefinite delay that just quietly floats. You'll walk away with a simple reframe: instead of waiting for the perfect time, find the next step.

✅ Why "someday" sounds reasonable but keeps everything important on hold 

✅ The 4000 Weeks perspective and why it's clarifying, not overwhelming 

✅ How waiting protects you from discomfort now — and adds regret later 

✅ Why motivation was never meant to carry the whole thing 

✅ How to shrink big, vague goals into one small, doable next step 

✅ Permission to ask for support without earning it first

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Transcript

Welcome to Learn to Thrive with ADHD. This is the podcast for adults with ADHD or ADHD like symptoms. I'm your host coach, Maddie John. I'm here to make your life with ADHD easier. Let's get started.

Today we're talking about the de trap. And this is one of those topics that sounds simple. At first we hear advice like, don't wait. Take action. Stop putting things off. But when we're talking about ADHD, I don't think it's actually that simple,

Because for a lot of us, some day does not sound like avoidance, some day sounds reasonable or responsible some day. Sounds like we're being thoughtful and practical. Some day. Feel safe because it lets us keep the possibility alive without asking anything of us today. And the problem is not that we have goals for the future. That's not the issue.

The problem is when some day becomes a place where everything important goes to wait.

Because some day feels safe. Some day does not ask anything of us today. Some day does not require us to be uncomfortable right now. Some day does not require us to risk failing or finding out something is harder than we thought it would be.

Some day lets us keep the possibility alive without having to take the next step. This episode is not about shaming you into action. It's not about telling you to push harder, do more, hustle more, or ignore your capacity. If you have ADHD, there are real reasons why starting can feel hard. There are real reasons why things get delayed.

Or why you feel tired, overwhelmed, confused, behind or discouraged. But I also want us to be honest about the way waiting can disguise itself. Sometimes waiting is wise or necessary. Sometimes you really do need more information, support, recovery or capacity. But sometimes waiting is fear dressed up as logic. Perfectionism dressed up as planning or waiting is avoidance dressed up as timing.

Often times waiting is shame. Telling you you can start once you're a better version of yourself. That's the part I want to look at today, because I think a lot of us are not just waiting to do a task or waiting to live in a version of our lives that we keep telling ourselves. It's coming later. Later, when things calm down, when you have more energy,

When you're more confident. When you finally get your act together. But what if later keeps moving? What if every time you get close to it, your brain creates a new condition? What if the perfect time you're waiting for is actually never coming? And I don't mean that in a scary way. I mean it in a way that's clarifying.

Your life is not waiting for you in some future season where everything's easier. It's happening right now, in the middle of the mess, the busy, the schedule, the overwhelmed brain. This messy part is your life too. Not just the polished version you're imagining for some day. This version counts. And that means the steps that you take now count too, even if they're small, messy, or imperfect.

Even if you're not fully ready. So today we're going to talk about ADHD and the Someday trap. We're going to talk about why waiting feels so convincing.

What waiting may actually be costing you, and how to stop waiting for the perfect time to start taking the next step in the life that you actually have. And I want you to be thinking as we go through this episode, where have I been saying someday, not so that you can beat yourself up so that you can tell yourself the truth?

One of the books that really fits this conversation is 4000 Weeks by Oliver Burkeman. The basic idea is that you live to be around 80 years old, and you have about 4000 weeks.

That's the number. I remember hearing that and thinking, that does not sound like much at all.

Because we talk about time like we have so much of it. We say things like, I'll get to it eventually, or maybe next year when things settle down as if there is this endless supply of future time that's waiting for us. But 4000 weeks pulls that illusion away. It reminds us that we're not managing unlimited time. We're living a limited life.

And I know that that can sound heavy, but I don't think it has to be depressing. I think it can be clarifying because when you realize that time is limited, not in a permanent way, but in a human way, it changes the questions that you ask.

Instead of asking, how do we get everything done? Maybe the question becomes what actually matters enough to get my attention? Instead of asking, how do I wait until this can be done perfectly, maybe the question becomes, what's worth doing imperfectly because life matters now. And for ADHD brains, this is especially important because time can be so abstract. We can know something matters, but if it's not urgent right now, it can float in the distance like it's not quite real.

So we wait and the waiting can feel like protection. Protection from failure. Protection from disappointment. Protection from proving one more time that we can't follow through. But the longer we wait, the more life keeps moving. Without our participation in areas that matter to us. And I don't say this to make you feel behind. You're not behind in some moral sense.

You're not failing at life because you haven't figured everything out yet.

There is no official timeline that says you were supposed to have everything handled by now. But I do want you to ask yourself honestly, what are you acting like you have unlimited time for? Is it your health? Your relationships? Your self trust?

Learning how to work with your ADHD instead of constantly fighting against it. Because at some point we have to stop treating our real life like it's the rough draft

and some future version of her life like the one that counts. This one counts. The season you're in now counts. The choices you make in the middle of the mass count.

We have one life. And I don't want that to be a pressure statement. I don't want you to hear that and think, right now I need to panic and change everything immediately.

That's not the point. The point is not. You have one life. Hurry up and fix everything. The point is, you have one life. So stop waiting for the perfect one before you participate in it. You don't need to overhaul your whole life today. You don't need to become a completely different person next week. But you may need to stop telling yourself that now doesn't count.

You may need to stop telling yourself that you can only begin once life is easier. You may need to stop telling yourself that support is for later, because the truth is, a lot of growth and change that you're waiting for only happens after you begin. And that's what we're going to talk about next. So one of the things that I really want you to see is that waiting does not just delay the outcome, it delays the learning.

And when we're stuck in the someday trap, we often think that we're just postponing the result. We think, I'll get to it later. I'll start later. I'll deal with that later. But we're not just delaying the thing. We're delaying everything we would have learned by trying,

even if it went badly or didn't work the way we thought it would. And I know it can sound strange because most of us do not want things to go badly. We don't want to start something and struggle. We don't want to put effort into something that we have to change, and we don't want to feel like it's wasted time.

But sometimes that messy attempt is not wasted time. Sometimes that messy attempt is the information that we needed. And so you try a system. You realize it's too complicated. That's information. You try a routine and realize the mornings are not the right place for it. That's information. You try to do it alone, and you realize that you actually need support.

That's just information.

But when we wait, we don't get any of that. We just keep thinking. And thinking can feel productive, especially for those of us with ADHD, because our brains can build entire worlds in our head and we can imagine the plan, improve the plan, research the plan, talk about the plan, and revise the plan and all of that can feel like we're getting somewhere.

But at some point, the plan has to touch real life, because real life gives you different information than your brain does. Your brain might tell you this will never work, but real life may show you. This part worked and this part didn't.

And now I know what to change. That's the kind of information that you only get by trying. And this is why I think waiting can be so sneaky. It feels like we're avoiding failure, but we may actually be avoiding the exact experiences that would build confidence. Because confidence doesn't come from thinking about doing the thing. Confidence comes from having the evidence.

The evidence that you can try, that you can mess up, that you can recover, adjust, ask for help or take one step even when you don't feel ready. And I think this is especially important for ADHD adults, because a lot of us are carrying a history of things not going how we wanted them to go.

We've started things and stopped. We've gotten excited and lost steam. We've bought the planner and abandoned it. We've made the plan and forgotten the plan. And we've promised ourselves this time will be different. And then watch ourselves repeat the same pattern. So of course we hesitate. Of course we start feeling heavy. Of course we want to wait until we feel that everything's ready.

But what if the answer is not waiting until you can guarantee success? What if the answer is learning how to start in a way that allows adjustment? Because that is what so many of us are missing. We think the first attempt has to be the final answer.

We think if we try a system, it has to work perfectly or it means that we failed. But what if the first attempt is just the prototype? What if the first version is just information? Data? What if the goal is not getting right on the first try, but stop standing outside our own life and waiting until we know exactly how everything's going to turn out.

This is one of the biggest shifts I want you to take away from this today. Stop trading action like it's the final exam and start trading action like feedback.

Because when you take action, you get data, clarity, practice and a chance to revise. And yes, sometimes you get disappointment, discomfort or evidence. But something needs to change. But that's still movement. That's still learning. And waiting does not protect you from discomfort forever. It just delays the discomfort and adds regret on top of it, which is just a different flavor of discomfort.

So I want you to think about something that you've been putting off. Not everything. Just one thing

And I want you to ask yourself, what would I learn if I tried not? What if I fail? Or what if I do it wrong?

Or what if I can't keep it up forever? Just what would I learn if I tried? Because that question changes the whole energy. It takes you out of proving yourself and puts you into learning. And learning is where growth actually happens.

Another book that fits this conversation is You're a Badass by Jin Sincero. I think it's how you say her last name. And one of the reasons I think this book connects here is because so much of waiting is really about self-doubt. We tell ourselves that we're waiting for the right time, but often we're waiting to feel like a different person.

We're waiting to feel confident, motivated, disciplined, certain,

Or like someone who follows through and I get that.

If you have ADHD and a long history of not following through the way that you wanted to, it makes sense that you want to feel more confident before you start again. You'd want some guarantee that this time is going to be different. You'd want to know that if you put your hope into something, it's not going to hurt.

And you want to know that if you try again, you're not just setting yourself up for another round of disappointment. So we wait to feel ready. But the frustrating thing is that most of those feelings come after the action, not before you don't become confident by waiting until confidence arrives.

You become confident by taking a step and showing yourself. I can do hard things in small pieces. You don't become consistent by waiting until you feel consistent. You become consistent by building something small enough that you can return to it. You don't become brave by waiting until fear is gone. You become brave by doing something while fear is still in the room.

And I know that sounds simple, but it's not always easy

Because ADHD adds a layer here. It's not just do the thing, it's do the thing while also managing your executive functions, your emotions, your energy, your time blindness, your memory, your distractibility the part of your brain that wants to run away the second something feels too big.

So I'm not saying just take action like it's some magical solution. I'm saying that waiting to feel like a completely different person, maybe keeping you from becoming one because the version of you who follows through is not built in your head. The version is built through practice, through trying, revising, getting support, and learning what actually works for your brain instead of continuing to shame yourself for not working like someone else.

And this is where I think we have to be careful with motivation.

motivation is wonderful when it shows up. I love motivation, I'll take it. If my brain wants to give me a little burst of energy and excitement, that's great.

But I don't want motivation to be the only doorway into my life. Because if I only move when I feel motivated, then life becomes dependent on the feeling that I can't always control. And a lot of us with ADHD know the cycle. We get a burst of motivation and we make a huge plan. We decide everything is changing, we go all in and when motivation drops because motivation does not.

We think something's gone terribly wrong, but nothing's gone wrong. Motivation was never meant to carry the whole thing. Support. Structure. Self-trust. Tiny steps and a realistic plan are what carry you through. So instead of asking how do I get motivated enough to change my life, maybe we ask, what is one step I can take even without a huge wave of motivation?

Instead of asking how do I become completely ready, we might ask what would support me in the beginning before I feel ready? Because readiness is not always a feeling. Sometimes readiness is a decision to stop waiting for a feeling. Sometimes readiness is saying, I'm allowed to begin messy. I can take one step and learn from it. I don't have to do this alone.

For many ADHD adults, the issue is not that you've never tried. You've tried. You've tried hard and you've tried systems and planners, apps, routines, books, podcasts, and maybe even the shame strategy. And if shame worked, we would all be thriving by now. But shame doesn't create sustainable change. But support, compassion and honesty does.

As well as a plan that actually fits our brains.

So if you're waiting to feel ready, I want you to consider that maybe ready is not a requirement. You don't have to become a whole new person before you begin.

You begin. And that's part of how you become who you know you can be. So let's talk about why ADHD brains are so good at falling into the someday trap. Because this is not a conversation of just stop procrastinating and do it. That's not helpful. And for ADHD brains, it's usually not accurate. A lot of the time when we say someday there's more going on underneath the surface,

Time planners can make later feel like a real plan.

Even when it has no date, no shape, no actual next step attached to it.

Perfectionism can tell us that if we can't do it right, we shouldn't start at all.

Emotional overwhelming can make avoidance feel like relief. Because not starting means we don't have to feel the fear, shame, confusion, or pressure right now, all or nothing thinking can convince us that a small step doesn't count.

So if we can't overhaul the whole thing, we might as well wait.

And shame from past attempts can make trying feel risky because a lot of ADHD adults are not starting from neutral. You're not looking at the thing you want to change with a clean, emotional slate. You're looking at it through the memory of the times that you tried before, and it didn't go the way you want it. The times that you got excited and then lost steam, the times that you promised yourself this time will be different.

Or the times that someone else seemed to do it so easily. And you couldn't figure out why it was so hard for you. That history matters. And if you don't understand your ADHD, it's very easy to turn that history into a character judgment. I didn't stick with it, so I must be lazy. I forgot, so I must not care.

I got overwhelmed, so I must not be capable. I stopped, so I must not be disciplined. But what if that's not the right conclusion? What if the real conclusion is I just need a different kind of support? Or I need systems that match my brain, or I need to stop using shame as a fuel source, because shame might get you moving for a minute, but it doesn't create safety.

And if your brain doesn't feel safe, it's going to keep trying to escape.

That's why the someday trope is so believable. It's not laziness. It's not a bad attitude or a lack of discipline. Sometimes some day means I'm overwhelmed. I don't know where to start. I'm afraid to try again, or I don't trust myself. And sometimes I'm waiting for the right time. Really means I don't know how to start in a way that my ADHD brain can actually sustain.

That's the part we have to pay attention to. Because once you understand that, the answer is not to yell at yourself or to try to shame yourself into action, the answer is to get more honest, more supported, and more specific. Instead of saying, I'll do it someday, we want to ask what is making it hard to start? Is it unclear?

Too big? Emotionally loaded? Unsupported? Could it be unrealistic for my actual capacity, or built for a brain that I don't have? Those are better questions

Because when you ask yourself better questions, you can stop treating yourself like the problem and start solving the actual problem.

Now let's talk about the cost. I think we have to tell the truth about what waiting costs us. Even if waiting feels neutral, it isn't. Sometimes the cost is confidence. Every time you say I'll start later than later never comes. You lose a little bit of trust with yourself. Not because you're bad or because something's wrong with you, but because your brain is watching.

You're watching. And over time, it gets harder to believe yourself when you say, I'm going to do this. Sometimes the cost is opportunity. Not because every opportunity disappears forever, but because some doors are only open when you're moving.

Some clarity only comes after you take a step. Some relationships, ideas, businesses, skills, and experiences only become possible because you started before you knew exactly where it was going. And sometimes the cost is peace because waiting doesn't always feel peaceful. A lot of times the thing that you're avoiding keeps taking up space in the back of your mind.

We're not doing it, but we're also not free from it. It's just sitting there quietly, using up mental energy. And sometimes the cost is support. This one matters a lot because many of us wait to get support until we feel like we deserve it, or until we feel less embarrassed, or until we can explain the problem perfectly, or until we're ready to make some progress on our own.

But that means we're trying to earn help by struggling alone first. And that's not how support is supposed to work.

You don't have to wait until you're drowning to ask for a hand. You don't have to wait until you already figured out half the problem before someone can help you with it, and you certainly don't have to wait until you can present a clean, organized, polished version of your struggle before you're allowed to get supported. The messy version is allowed to get help, too.

In fact, this is often where the real work starts. This is also where I want to make an important distinction. There is a difference between an intentional pause and an indefinite delay. An intentional pause. Sounds like I'm choosing to wait until this specific time because I need rest, recovery information, or resources. That's different from I'll do it when life calms down because when life calms down.

Sounds reasonable, but it's usually not specific. And when something's not specific, it's very easy for it to disappear.

An intentional pause has a reason and a return point. An indefinite delay just floats.

And I think a lot of us with ADHD have things floating

Not because we don't care, but because we haven't brought them down to real life. We've not decided what the next step is and when we're going to revisit it, or what kind of help we need. We've just left it in the mental cloud of some day, and that can go on for years. So this is where you need some honesty and some compassion.

Maybe there is something in your life that you've been waiting for for a long time, and maybe you've had good reasons.

Maybe life really has been hard on you, or you've been overwhelmed, or your capacity has been limited. Or maybe you really did need rest. All of that can be true. And it can also be true that you don't want to keep waiting forever. Both things can be true at the same time. You can have compassion for why you waited and still decide that it's time to take a step.

You can understand the ADHD reasons behind the delay and still decide that you want support.

You can acknowledge that this has been hard and decide that you're not going to keep putting it off forever, or keep your life on pause. That's the middle ground that I want us to find, not panic, shame, or pretending everything's easy, but also not staying in the someday trap just because it feels familiar. Because the cost of waiting is not always obvious in the moment.

It's not always dramatic. It's not always one huge consequence. Sometimes it's quieter than that. Another month of feeling stuck. Another season of saying, I really need to do something about this. Another year of wondering why nothing has changed. And at some point we have to ask, do I want to keep waiting for the perfect time? Or do I want to begin with the life I actually have?

That question is not meant to pressure you. It's meant to bring you back into your agency because you may not be able to change everything today, but you can probably take one honest step. And that's where we're going to go next.

So if some day is the trap what do we do instead. I want to keep this really simple. We replace some day with the next step. Not a complete life overhaul, or a 12 step plan, or a brand new identity by Monday morning. Just a next step,

Because I think one of the reasons we stay stuck is that our brain turns the thing that we want to do into something huge. We don't just think, I need to make a doctor's appointment. We think I need to fix my health. We don't think I need to support my ADHD. We think I need to explain everything that has gone wrong.

Figure out exactly what kind of help I need and make sure that I don't waste anyone's time. And then, of course, we freeze because everything got too big. So when I say take the next step, I mean shrink it down until your brain actually can touch it. What is the next visible action? What is the next five minutes step?

What's the next thing that you could do before your brain turns this into your entire life story? That's where we get movement. A lot of us are waiting because we think we need clarity before we act. But sometimes clarity comes after action.

Sometimes you don't know what you need to do until you take the first step and see what happens. Sometimes you don't know what works for your brain until you try something and adjust it. So instead of asking, how do I solve this whole thing, just ask, what is the next step that would give me more information? That's such a better question because now the goal is not perfection.

The goal is information.

Because the ADHD brain can get overwhelmed by anything that feels too open ended. If the step is vague, it probably won't happen. Get my life together is not a step. Work on my ADHD is not a step. Be more consistent is not a step. Those are hopes. Those are directions. Those might even be beautiful goals, but they're not.

Next steps. A next step is something that you can actually do. Open the calendar. Send the text. Set the timer. Write the first sentence. Book the call. This is the level that we're talking about. And I know sometimes this feels almost too small to matter.

But I want you to be careful with that thought, because that thought is one of the ways all or nothing thinking keeps you stuck. Your brain says that's not enough. But enough for what? It may not be enough to change your whole life in one day. But it's enough to break the pattern of waiting and create a little bit of evidence

Because the next step is not supposed to carry the whole mountain. The next step just gets your foot on the path. That's all. You don't need to believe in the whole journey yet. You don't need to know exactly how everything's going to work out, and you don't need to feel completely ready. You just need to start making someday the plan.

So I want you to think about that one thing I asked you about earlier. That one thing that you've been waiting on, that thing that you keep telling yourself you'll deal with later. And I want you to ask yourself a few questions. What am I waiting to feel before I start? What do I think needs to happen first?

Is that actually required? Or is my brain trying to protect me from discomfort? What is one small step I could take this week,

And who could help me not do this alone? That last question is important because sometimes the next step is not doing more. Sometimes the next step is getting support. Sometimes the next step is admitting. I don't want to keep trying to figure this out by myself.

Sometimes the next step is letting someone else help you see the pattern. Break the problem down and build something that actually fits your brain.

And that brings me to the part I want to speak to directly.

If one of the things you've been waiting for is getting help with your ADHD, I want you to really notice that not with judgment, but with honesty. Because a lot of people wait to get support until they feel less overwhelmed. But overwhelm. Maybe the reason support would help.

A lot of people wait until they have more time. But learning to work with your time, maybe part of the support that you need. A lot of people wait until they're more consistent. But consistency may be one of the things you need help building.

You don't have to earn support. I think that's one of the biggest traps for ADHD adults. We think that we should be able to figure this out on our own. We think we should have already figured it out by now.

Or we think that if we were really capable, we wouldn't need help with things like time follow-through, emotional regulation, routines, plannings or getting started. But needing support does not mean that you're incapable. It means you're human.

And if you have ADHD, it may mean that you've been trying to solve ADHD challenges with tools that were never built for your brain in the first place.

Private coaching is not about me handing you a perfect system and saying, here, just do this. That's not how it works. It's about looking at your actual life, your actual brain, your actual patterns, your actual obstacles, and figuring out what makes sense for you. It's about understanding why you're stuck instead of just blaming yourself for being stuck. It's about building self trust in small, realistic ways.

And it's about creating structure without turning your life into a person. It's also about slowing the problem down, sorting through the overwhelm, and figuring out the next steps when everything feels tangled. So if you've been thinking about private ADHD coaching with me or with someone else,

This is your reminder to take it off the someday pile. You don't have to wait until you're less overwhelmed. You don't have to wait until the house is cleaner or until work slows down. You can start where you are.

If you're curious about working with me privately, go to Learn to Thrive with adhd.com/services and book a free call.

And that call is a place for us to talk about what's going on, what you've been struggling with, and what you want help with, and whether coaching is the right fit.

And I want to say this clearly,

If you already know you want support, don't wait another six months for the perfect time. Real life is happening now.

You're allowed to begin before everything's perfect. You're allowed to begin before you feel completely ready. And you're allowed to begin with a version of who is listening to this episode right now.

And since I'm recording this around summer, I want to talk to you about that for a minute, because summer can easily become one of those seasons where we automatically tell ourselves. I'll deal with that later. I'll deal with it in the fall. I'll get back on track when school starts. I'll think about the support when things feel normal again.

And I get that. Summer can be a weird season. Schedules change. Kids are home. Travel happens. Routines get disrupted.

There can be more activities, more interruptions, more heat.

Or just a totally different rhythm from the rest of the year. And for some people, summer really does need to be slower. And that's okay. I'm not saying every season of your life needs to be productive in the same way. I'm not saying rust is wrong, and I'm not saying you need to turn summer into some intense self-improvement project, but slower doesn't have to be installed.

Rusting doesn't have to mean disappearing from your own life.

Having a different rhythm doesn't mean putting everything that matters into the someday pile.

I think a lot of us use disruption of a season as proof that we can't start. We think this is not a normal schedule, so I'll wait or I can't do it perfectly right now, so I'll do nothing until the perfect routine comes back.

Maybe it's the season where you stop treating September or Monday or next month as a magical starting line, because real life doesn't always give us clean beginnings. Sometimes the beginning is messy and sometimes the beginnings inconvenient. Or it happens in the middle of a season that doesn't feel ideal. And honestly, for ADHD, brain's learning how to begin in the middle.

Maybe one of the most important skills that we can build.

But if we learn how to begin in the middle of real life, that changes things. Because real life is where we actually live here. Now, in this season, with this brain, with this capacity, with this next step. So maybe this summer or whatever season you're listening to, this end is not a waiting room.

Maybe it's not the place where your growth has to pause. Maybe it's not the place where your support has to wait. Maybe it's simply a different kind of season.

And instead of asking, how do I do everything right now? Maybe the question is, what is one thing that I don't want to keep postponing? Just one thing.

What is one thing I keep pushing into the future that I could bring into the present?

Whatever it is I want you to question the idea that you have to wait for a better season to begin. Because sometimes the better season starts. Because you begin. Not perfectly, not dramatically, not all at once, but with one next step. So as we wrap up, I want to bring it back to the heart of the episode. You have this one life.

Just one. You have your 4000 weeks, and it's not the one you keep imagining for some day when everything's easier, cleaner, calmer, or more organized. It's this one now, and the someday trap is so convincing because it sounds reasonable. It tells you that waiting safer. It tells you that later will be better. It tells you that once you feel more confident, more motivated, more disciplined, or more ready, then you can begin.

But sometimes the perfect time never comes. Sometimes life does not calm down first. Sometimes confidence, clarity and readiness does not arrive first. Sometimes you have to begin first, and those things grow as you go. That is the one message I want you to hold on to. You don't need to fix everything today. You don't need to overhaul your whole life.

You don't need to become a completely different person overnight, but you may need to stop waiting for the perfect version of your life before you participate in your real one.

You may need to lovingly tell yourself the truth. I've been waiting and I don't want to keep waiting forever. That truth doesn't have to come with shame. It can come with compassion. Of course I waited. I was overwhelmed. I was scared. I didn't know where to start. And I didn't trust myself yet. And it can also come with a decision.

And now I'm ready to take one on this next step. Not the perfect step. Not a dramatic step. Not an all or nothing life change. Just one step in the right direction.

Because that next step brings the thing out of someday and into your actual life.

It gives you information. It gives you movement, gives you a chance to build self-trust, and it gives you a chance to learn instead of just wonder.

And if the next step for you is getting support with your ADHD, I want to invite you to take it seriously.

But whatever you've been waiting to do, don't wait another six months or for the perfect season, or until you feel like a better version of yourself. Your life is happening now, and you're allowed to get support to begin now.

Thank you all. And I'll see you next week.

Thank you for your time today, and especially your attention. If you're anything like me, you love to learn. Sometimes, though, we can know what to do but struggle to put it into action without the right support. That's what Private ADHD coaching is for. To give you the unique support and accountability you need to make the change you know is possible.

Book a free consultation with me today at WW W learn to thrive with ADHD Tor.com Backslash Services. I look forward to meeting you.